Keeping the escort job secret saves potential conflicts

But the double life means having to lie to friends and family. In addition, and this is perhaps a much more important aspect, you constantly give yourself the feeling that you should be ashamed of your job and that you are doing something bad. Even though you enjoy the job, you deny this part of your life and your identity out of fear of rejection and devaluation. The problem is that working as an escort lady is not equated with other professions. While a waitress doesn't have to worry about being judged by her social environment for her work, this unfortunately happens quite often to sex workers. Unlike other professions, women who work in the escort industry or other fields of sex work are often reduced to their job or their entire identity is evaluated differently based on it. The whore stigma has a strong negative influence on how a person is perceived by society and those around them. So how should you go about telling those around you about your job, despite all the prevailing prejudices? How can you convey to your friends and family that you enjoy working as an escort? How to tell friends and family about working as an escort? It's definitely possible and in the long run it takes the stress out of leading a double life. However, you should carefully consider beforehand whether the double life is more stressful in the long term or whether the possible conflicts that would result from coming out would be more stressful and would be spared by the double life.

In any case, it is important for an “out” that you free yourself from the social stigma and stand confidently in your job. Otherwise it could be difficult to get family and friends to critically question their existing ideas and stereotypes. It can also be helpful to make yourself and others aware that it is just a job and not fundamentally something about your own
Personality changes. The best thing to do is to make a list of all the positive aspects that you have
about working as an escort.

Highlight positive aspects of the escort profession and refute prejudices.

Of course, it cannot be ruled out that there will still be negative reactions, lack of understanding and...
can lead to long discussions. For many people, sex work is not an everyday issue, many
Apart from negative prejudices from the media, they have no real connection to it and have each other
simply never dealt with it. Therefore, it is understandable that an “outing”
The situation is initially a bit overwhelming for everyone involved and it often takes more than one person
Conversation until others can ask all their questions and let go of their worries.
If the job isn't a secret, the constant fear of getting caught disappears.
Being open about your work means being fully committed to yourself and your decisions
to be able to stand.

Therefore, many women find it a great relief in the long term to be open about it
her work as an escort lady. On the one hand, because of the constant fear of getting caught
will disappear and you will no longer have to maintain a double life. On the other hand, become
Private relationships are no longer burdened and can even gain depth and trust.
Additionally, every visible volunteer sex worker helps combat stigma
did. Because the more voluntary and satisfied prostitutes become visible, the more this will happen
Changing image of prostitution in society.

Keeping your work as an escort secret or being open about it – how do you find the right one for you? decision and implements it optimally?

The following questions should help you make the right decision for yourself:

• Do you only want to work as an escort for a short time or perhaps over a longer period of time?

• How much space should the activity take up? Do you want to do it as a part-time or full-time job and to what extent?

• Would leading a double life cost a lot of energy and put a lot of strain on your private relationships?

• Would an open relationship lead to strong conflicts with your social environment and permanently damage relationships with your family or friends?

• How afraid are you of the consequences of stigmatization and how much could this negatively influence your future career?

Keeping your job secret is the lesser evil and a double life ultimately means less trouble?

• Find at least one person with whom you can discuss what you have experienced at work. If no one from your private environment is an option, seek contact with colleagues.

• Come up with plausible excuses for the time you spend on your dates.

• If you don't do any work full-time, but instead study, for example, think about a plausible explanation for how you finance your living.

• Don't stand out because of expensive purchases or changing how you handle money.

• Get a second cell phone so that your family or friends don't become suspicious of messages or calls from customers on your personal cell phone.

• Do not post pictures of dates on your private social media accounts.

The double life becomes too stressful in the long run and the long-term positive aspects of coming out outweigh the associated short-term inconveniences?

Which people will react more tolerantly and which will react more negatively? Start with yours